So.....how about a little creative staging? Next time H comes home there's a bouquet of red roses, a day or two old? If H asks, you can pause guiltily and then say "Oh, I bought them for myself" - lol, he won't believe you.
When he does get home - be dressed up and ready to go out "dancing with friend X". Look hot. Wave bye bye as you head out the door (even if you have to just sit at a starbucks and read, or go to a movie alone - let him think you're out dancing. If you looked especially good, he'll spend the evening envisioning other men hitting on you.)
Buy some new super-sexy undies. And only wear them when you're going out "dancing". Haha
