Also also KML, he wasn't ever this selfish before. In fact, I sometimes wonder if the A feels so good to him because he's put work and family first for too long.
And, the OW's husband apparently does know. They are separated so I think she has permission to date and they seem to share their kids. OW's friends also know. My only snarky comment today was that they really seem like a quality group of women. (One of them is FB friends with H and has commented about how cute our family photos are...)
I did also tell my H...this is why affairs are bad. It's an impossible situation and likely everyone ends up getting destroyed.
M 44, H 46 D11, D9, D5 Married 12 years PA confirmed 9/2011 I filed 3/2012 H moved out 7/2012