Together since we were 15.

[Jenna333]

Thank you so much for the responses!

Km2ct, there's no OW. I still check the phone records. I know I need to stop doing that. He'd also not be acting so lonely and want to be around me so much if there was somebody else. He fishes around to find out if I've been hit on much, etc. I don't play the game with him.

Sad_but_Happy, I know a big part of him worries that he's the reason I didn't have my own life. He's hurt that I'm motivated to change once he's gone. I guess I fear that if I ignore R talk and treat him just like a friend when he's opening up to me and flirting with me, he will think that I really am better off without him We have had our (major issues), but I know without a doubt that our R is worth saving.

It's so confusing. I want him to fall in love with me again. In a way it seems like flirting and doing other things that you do when you're first interested in someone would be a right move here. No?