Indecision and the affair continues (Part 2)

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Yeah, we'll see. I do think he's torn, but hard to know where things will end up.

H is leaving today. I am suspicious again on his plans. He needs to go to a fun city for work today and I get the impression that OW could be meeting him there. He won't say when he's coming back and it doesn't really make sense that he'd fly to her city for work for just a Friday. Is it reasonable for me to ask him? Seems like it given the kids, although maybe I should just act like I don't care.

"Bitter"--I think he had a hard time telling me why he wouldn't want to give up the affair, so I'm not sure if "bitter" is exactly his feeling. But, I would guess he'd be angry at me and upset that he'd have to give it up. From everything I've read, I think this is normal and the bitter feeling would go away as he emerged from the fog and worked on the marriage.

I've also given him the option that if he'd be willing to give up the A temporarily...we could work on our marriage for 2-3 months and if things aren't improving...he could go back to the A. He can't seem to be able to do that. (I've read about this approach in a couple books--you hope the A addiction goes away during the 3 month period and enough of the good of the marriage can start to emerge...but, it's risky)

H kept touching me last night (non-sexually) or holding me. I read something about the power of attachment versus attraction and I think he must be feeling some of that attachment.