Hey Purg, sometimes I wonder if we were related in a past life
OMG!! LIGHTBULB!! as I was just typing that last sentence^^^, it hit me: Cr@p..... this must have been how my H felt when I would go off so cruelly one minute and then act as if nothing happened the next- with no apologies. I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy. That must have been awful for him to go through on a regular basis.
I have had that exact same realization! My W now uses the same short irritated tone of voice that I used to use with her and now I totally get how she felt and how hurtful it would be to deal with that for 9 years. Now I understand why this is such a long process. I don't like it, but I understand it. There is a great deal of healing that needs to take place for our spouses and we need to rebuild trust with them.
"so, as you're unpacking the stuff from the trip, keep and eye out for [something]" My brain stopped listening when he said *you're*, implying that he expected *me* to unpack the sh!t from *his* trip! This was funny to me on so many levels...
LOL!!! I'm not laughing at the situation. I am laughing at your thought process. I would have been thinking the same thing, but I probably would have just left all the crap there (I need to work on not being passive aggressive)
I agree with you that your H is going to have a rude awakening when he is on his own. Like you said before this seperation will give your H time to process through his anger and to realize what he would be giving up if he moved on with a D.
Your strength, wisdom and compassion always amazes me. Hang in there you are doing a great job ((( )))
M:(f) 35 W: 45 3 dogs and 2 cats T: 9 years 9/30/11 I love you, but I'm not in love with you OW confirmed 12/23/11