Barb - remember that MAL is the one that dumped HIM, and that this weekend was the first time RC's friend came to town. I could see RC being confused, perhaps afraid to trust Mal, and now being stuck between a very early new R, and the old desire for Mal. He very well may end up choosing Mal.
Nonetheless, Mal, he has said he wants to pursue this thing with J. You made it clear that you wanted him back, and you have shown him your sturdy friendship. Just don't press now. It's okay to continue to show him your friendship to see if he will come running back to you - he might, after all, you didn't think J was all that much competition. Just don't get stuck - live your life, keep your options open, don't get hung up.
