Rick first of all. thank you for your highly insightful post about how to approach your W. I feel that I am somewhat in the exact same situation as you. I termed it as my W doesn't want out, but she doesn't know if she wants in or how to get there.
As for the dream, I watched a Nova special on dreams awhile back and it went into much detail about the dreaming how if affects our bodies etc.
One theory is that dreams sometimes represent a dry run for worst-case scenarios so when they come up in real life we will be prepared. Under that theory, you W's dream seems to fit that mode. It was scary, but the main issue is how she approaches and reacts the dream and how you show her it was ..."just a dream."
Makes sense to me! I'm sure the idea of manipulation is on her mind in some fashion so I'm disolving into the background for a while. Her dream could mean anything but I'm not gonna give her a reason to interpret it as a real world threat! Thanks.
