NLG- I feel for where you are, it [censored] but will get better. My WAW moved out 5 months ago and I have 3 kids. Their were countless sleepless nights and almost unbearable emotional pain but I think based on what I've read that the seperation is necessary if you two are ever to R.
Have you read DR? Your R patterns seem pretty up and down so I would suggest you try to detach emotionally as much as possible from your W right now and give yourself a short time line goal, say a month and re-evaluate how you are doing. Do you want to R? I did not read your previous thread so I apologize if you have already addressed my thoughts.