When I am around him, I am find myself rehearsing in my head about what I am going to say to him, so he doesn't think I am criticizing him.
I'm glad to know I'm not the only one doing this^^^^. It's so confusing when H reacts angry/pissy when I make a simple statement that used to never bother him. Sometimes I find myself apologizing: 'I didn't know [my statement] would upset you, that's never my intention, sorry." and sometimes I'll call him out on it: "I think you're over reacting a little to [my statement], and it hurts my feelings." Both of these are 180's for me b/c I would normally started giving it right back to him... and that always led to a fight. To my surprise, H will usually calm down to my level of talking and sometimes apologize.... but the fact that H lowers his voice- is a win in my book.
I'm glad to see that this seems to be a 'normal' phase of the WAH.... when do they get out of it??
I'm really impressed that you didn't go over to his house. I'm not that strong yet- if I had a chance to be around my H, I would take it. I'm sure it wasn't easy for you to do, but it showed him that you won't jump to his every request... way to go!!
M-31, H-31 T-9, M-7 S-6, s-20mth sep 8/1/11 ILYNILWY 11/29/11 Creating separation papers. Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12 H moves out 1.20.12
