I guarantee there is a lot more to it but you can't spend your time wondering what it is. He will either work through it on his own or he will continue to spin in his own world. It is not your concern at this point.

All you can do right now is protect your children and love them. They absolutely require your stability right now.

So sorry you are facing this, but it sounds like your H has a LONG road to go.

T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43
bomb12/4/07
PA5/07
S12/26/07
D final 11/17/08
Back together with no defined R 05/2010
confused....to say the least!!!