have you tried a few sessions with a DB coach? They seem pricey but in my area they are the same price as T and with a pkg of 3, DB coaches may be cheaper. They are very specific and helpful.
I highly recommend them. In 2005 I gave my m about a 10% of success and said that out loud...and here I am.
Good luck all
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016