not enought time and too much distance

[any chance?]

Thanks for the thoughts, V.

Everything continues to amaze me. I have done my best to take the high road and support my W through her difficult periods. Now the OM is revealed, and I am being demonized completely. The entire collapse of our marriage is being justified by my betraying my W and having lost her trust....for an event that happened 8 years ago before any of the issues that drove us into such a massive decline. It as if she is completely blameless for anything. And now the concept of spousal support is being threatened, although she swore she would never do such a thing. I fully take all the blame and responsibility that it mine, and have for a very long time. How I am turning out to be the bad guy who is in line to get scr*wed by the lawyer is simply beyond me.

The saddest part? After 20+ years I still love her, and simply cannot believe this is happening the way it is.

Should have had that frontal lobotomy a long time ago.

Thanks for listening.