Maybe in his mind, the bomb was actually dropped when he moved out in August-
When my W first dropped the bomb it was about needing space to think and consider. If you ask her now though that was a ruse to "ease" me into this, so that it wasn't such a shock. Even as she was saying she needed space she says she knew she wanted a divorce.
Of course this is what she has said... is it the truth? Is it revisionist history? I have no way of knowing. But I can tell you that on the day she dropped the first bomb we hugged. I remember thinking that that hug felt like a goodbye hug more than any hug I've ever received. It's also the last one I've gotten from her, so perhaps it was intended to be.
Married 6 together 8 Me:38 W:31 second marriage for both SS12, SD10, S6 Bomb: 9/8/11 (day before our 5 yr ann) W moved out: 2/18/12 D final: 11/12/12 Share S 50/50. Spend as much time as I can with SS & SD