Yes, it is one of the things I continue to work on. And here is a "but" I suppose... however, one of the frustrations is that of course the unique qualities of each sitch are impossible to know. So while we are all desperate for help and guidance, that can only go so far. It's not possible to know the ins and outs of every sitch or every relationship.
Married 6 together 8 Me:38 W:31 second marriage for both SS12, SD10, S6 Bomb: 9/8/11 (day before our 5 yr ann) W moved out: 2/18/12 D final: 11/12/12 Share S 50/50. Spend as much time as I can with SS & SD