La Bug-Clouds in my Coffee

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I just read this post and wanted to move it here so I could find it again. I also have a text file of DB Words of Wisdom that I will add it to.

On detachment and GAL
rickb89: I really could not imagine how much it would sukk if this doesn't work out.

25yearsmlc: Well you NEED to imagine it. Yes...that's what I said.
Only when I imagined life without my h, but with me being happy
was I able to make the changes I wanted in my life and in me - ANYHOW....so flesh out the images of what you'd be doing without her. If she passed away and enough time had passed
what would your life look like assuming it's a healthy happy life? You're not shriveling up in the fetal position, right?

Are you going back to school or taking a class or joining a new church or taking Spanish or travelling or what? And with whom? (not OWs, but who else?)
and create as much of THAT life now, as possible. It's called GAL and it makes you happier and healthier and more likely to reconcile...and yet, if you don't, you're a lot farther down the road of recovery than you would be otherwise.

It's a win win....hope you get this. Make sense?


Some days I feel really detached and others, not so much. Now when thoughts of H enter my head, I'm saying to myself

We're not a couple, he does not want to be with me, I'm worth more than pining for someone who doesn't want ME.

Of all the old threads I've read, they all say this-DETACHING-creates success, no matter if there's reconciliation or not.