Indecision and the affair continues (Part 2)

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Talked to DB coach (Laurie). She thought I should go into counseling and see if we can get H to start talking first. Don't push him into a corner and try not to attack/complain about his behavior. See where he stands when he doesn't feel threatened. If he is confused or unsure where he stands, see if we can get more counseling sessions or if he should go alone.

I told her I was near the end of my rope and she said I sounded like I was strong and ready to take a next step if needed. I told her I felt like I could let H have another week or two if he is moving in the right direction--but I can't go on like this.

(One of her ideas was to tell the kids he's moving to OW's city for work for a month or two but keep it quiet and not officially separate...I said that would just continue to enable him and he'd probably love that)

I think the last 6 months has given me a chance to get my strength up and I can be ready to move on if I need to.

I will post after our MC session and let you know how it goes. I feel a sense of impending doom...but we'll see.