Sandi, thank you so much for the reply. It's great to hear a voice that's not from inside my own head.
The promotion would be a major re-assignment. It does not involve moving to a different city only a different campus/subsidiary company within our city, a location that is closer to our current home. The promotion will affect our family due to an anticipated increase in salary and other benefits, such as health insurance. Given that my current work has been the source of many problems for my W (my constant complaints about the job, the low salary, me being depressed about going in) and for me (same reasons) finally taking action by setting up a meeting with my boss and demanding the job was a LRT for me because it is such a radical change. My W has complimented me several times about my action in this area. She even said that I was acting more like my old, confident self! (One of the reasons that her decision to re-file hurts even more.)
I want to tell my W when the promotion comes and agree it would be unmanly not to do so. I am leary of falling into a R conversation though because I know how much the new job could change things for the M/R/Family in light of my past failures, especially in the financial area, and I feel I might be tempted to use the job to try to sell my W on giving the M another try. In light of your advice, I will provide the information when it comes and not try to manipulate it to an end that involves the R. Thanks again.
