I would tell her about the promotion once it is confirmed. I would not ask about her filing for a D. You will know if you get served. Being in limbo will not be fun. It can take about 1 to 2 months to be served.
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”