No, it's not. It turns people off and alienates them. It makes even minor issues into battles that must be won. I find that I win many Phryrric victories. It also doesn't usually get me any closer to a solution since I've been putting so much energy into being right.
I can see that is something that you have struggled with. Knowing the outcome BEFORE all of the information is out there.
WHG, I just see a lot of you being defensive in your answers , and for every point, there is a "but" , or an excuse of why this behavior continues.
Do you ever remember, in having an argument or discussion with your spouse, knowing the response before she spoke ? Or thinking of your response while she was talking ?
One of the wisest things I ever learned was to...
Seek to understand, then you will be understood
Recognizing the patterns, and killing those behaviors are things that will not fail YOU on this path. Whatever the outcome of your Marriage is, you will have benefited from the lessons that you have the potential to learn.
I apologize for getting off track here this afternoon, and I hope you can look past this interruption for a few minutes.
This is a pattern I have seen on your threads.
And I don't want you to lose valuable posts to you because the information hits too close to home for you to step back and see what the poster is trying to get across to you.
