Dunno where we are now, as, after our big "talk" about the next step (separation) and her out of the house for a few days before the New Year, I made the mistake of initiating ML (BIG mistake) and we are back in "la la" uncertainty land in both of our brains I think (but know I have the power to push this again)...also, selfishly, have a major work deliverable due the end of this month so thinking I need to wait until that gets in (on 1/27/12) before "rocking the boat" w/ separation...
Her bday is coming up this Friday and she said she's going to a going away party for a friend on Saturday and those same uneasy feelings are coming up again (is it truth or fiction/is there really a party for her friend or something else???).