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[2thepoint]

WHG - I don't really like the letter. Not because I don't think it is genuine and heartfelt and written to support the best interest of the children. Rather, I think you are simply providing too much information. Sort of wearing your heart on your sleeve so to speak.

Here's what I did when the time came. On the day that we had planned to tell the kids, it just so happened that we had a parent teacher conference scheduled. So at the conference after the teacher told me what a great kid and student my S was, I told the teacher that later that day W and I would be telling the kids of our separation.

I told her that we were very concerned with the affect this would have on our S and would appreciate it if she would keep a watchful eye on him and let us know if she noticed any problems beginning to surface.

The teacher was visibly saddened for us and for S since S is one of her favorite students. But, she also made a note of it and one for the schools guidance counselor.

I did not go into any detail other than to say that one day I hoped that W and I would be able to work things out. But that was it. No detail, no mushiness, etc. Just the facts that needed to be known.

And you know what? That was all that was really necessary. My S continues to thrive academically and I know the teacher is keeping an eye on him.

Hope this helps.