Great post Rick. Though our situations are slightly different (my wife is out of the house - but almost ALL her stuff is still here, and she's SAID she wants a divorce, will mention it briefly once every 7-10 days but hasnt filed or anything), I feel like my wife's past traumas and my own actions/inactions exacerbating them play a huge role in what's going on. So I've bookmarked the thread so when it gets frustrating, or feeling TOO uphill, I can come back for inspiration.
Rick said: I heard the D word all too much myself, and sadly lobbed it back at her too. I guess there is truth to what Michele W D says that its not over until its over. Pls just hang in there because you never know. I never thought my W and I would ever get back to a place of being cordial and even maybe R, but it wasn't until I accepted what DB'ing was saying that anything happened. And I was a lost and as "f" up as possible.
