I Will Survive...

[sunshine76]

Thanks Wen, that is really good advice and I am so happy for you that you are seeing changes in your husband!

Journal: I just recently did one of the most selfish/thoughtless things that I have ever done and my W is crushed and wants me to move out.

My W's father passed away about 1.5 years ago. He had a 14 year old beat up car that he used to get him to where he needed to go. His hobby was tinkering with cars. In this particular car he had attached some kind of a vaccuum gauge to the dashboard with this big metal strap.

I just recently started driving this car because I got rid of mine. I had to take it to the mechanic last week and while I was there I asked him to remove the gauge because it was ugly and embarassing. I did not ask my W's permission first. My W found out about it yesterday when she got in the car. She is totally crushed that I did that and she feels like she lost a part of her dad. I can't believe I was so selfish. I know what it is like to lose a parent and how special everything they touched is.

I have apologized and told her how selfish it was, but I know there is nothing that I can do to make it better. Now she wants me out of the house.

Should I try to get out quickly so that maybe she is able to process through her anger and hurt? Should I try to stay in the house for as long as possible and just stay away from her?
I really don't know what to do or say at this point.