I have been so busy that I've only just browsed your current situation. Am I reading that your ex BF has a new GF and he takes her to your church? How uncomfortable is that?
After DBing a cheating spouse unsuccessfully (me) - I am inclined to go along with my counsellor who told me when ex was involved with OW that a R with 3 people in it can't be saved unless he dropped her. And I know we were all told differently when we came here but I saw very little evidence of saved relationships after major cheating.
Anyway - I read your painful situation and it brought back a flood of horrible memories of that time in my life when my ex took his ow to church and tried introducing her to my friends etc. Just as he is doing now with my disabled son (who can't say NO like his siblings) and my son's nurses who hate that.
All I can say is - sorry for your pain. There will be someone much better on your horizon and I think the new year brings good change with it.
