I think you're handling it well moving slowly. I don't claim to be an expert, but with the on-line dating that I have had...moving slowly worked well. I was never disappointed when we finally did meet.
I started with the online chatting and then eventually a phone call. Then we met for something low-key. Coffee is good.
The guy I dated for four years, RC, (the reason I am back on here), that is how we started. There were others too who turned into relationships and one is still a great friend. So I know it can work.
Sounds like you have the right frame of mind.
Me 47 Ex H 46 Bomb 9/02 D final 3/04 Ex H now married to OW
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