Plus, he really hasn't acknowledged the hurt/pain he has caused. I don't think he's capable of processing right now.
I'm probably throwing money in the wind going to counseling tomorrow...but maybe it helps put us on some type of path. I guess at a minimum, maybe H will open up a bit if he's asked the right questions or knows we're spending money to be there.
I told him some of the stuff I've read about affairs and him putting up walls and being in a fog last night. He seemed mildly curious, but I'm sure would dismiss it if it made him look bad or irrational.
M 44, H 46 D11, D9, D5 Married 12 years PA confirmed 9/2011 I filed 3/2012 H moved out 7/2012