Oh no, it was nothing like this when we were dating and first got married. At that point she was happy, easy going, and would do things with me, like skiing, swimming, kayaking, rollerblading (back then), biking, etc. Sex was fun, she was engaged. Over time, she slowly gave up doing all those things. Now I can't even get her to go to the beach, she claims the sound of the waves bothers her.

Like anyone, she changed over the years, but I think more dramatically than most. I didn't perceive how badly things had gotten however, because she wouldn't tell me when she was upset. She believed she had a "duty" to be a good wife and not to complain or ask for anything, just to accept whatever I brought to the table. I saw that she was angry / upset but she'd never admit it had anything to do with me so I assumed it was job-related stress.

After the bomb she agreed to talk to me about how she was feeling and a veil was lifted on a lot of things.

That's the long answer, the short answer is that no, she was not always like this and our relationship started out easy. The fond memories and feelings I carry from that time are definitely part of the fuel that keeps me going. If she was always like this I'd have no basis for complaint!

Accuray

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015