Soooo, things with husband were going along just fine. Then Christmas comes and he went to his home town. I expected it. We exchanged gigts before he left.
Today is our 9th wedding anniversy. Actually, it is our second 9th anniversy, we got married in a secret wedding in Las Vegas. Anyhoo, in Nov. was our actual anniversary and I said something and he got very distant. He did come over that night to play with the dog. I barely made eye contact.
Fast forward to today: I made no anniversary contact...Never mentioned it throughout our texts today. I just got a text that read:
"Happy anniversary...btw, I know you forgot"
ummmmmm no didnt forget, had wayyyyy to much to drink to even respond.
Takes? Suggestions???
me:51 H: 48 No kids together M:14 years seperated:Ask him to GET OUT 3/21/11 Piecing 09/14
Have not crie this much in the last 9 months....ugggg. H called about nothing and I asked him when he was coming home (meaning from Orange county to our county) and he said "Home?" like he was never coming come.
Back to being dark.....1 year later and here I go again.
me:51 H: 48 No kids together M:14 years seperated:Ask him to GET OUT 3/21/11 Piecing 09/14
Your sitch and mine are similar when it comes to the time line, and let me assure you that you do NOT need to make the choice to get back on the emotional roller coaster.
You could choose to ignore his text, or you can respond with something simple like you weren't sure how to feel about the date and didn't feel comfortable. Something along those lines.
You'll be ok. I promise.
"Everyone you meet has baggage. Find someone who loves you enough to help you unpack." ¤Formerly DelinquentGurl¤
interesting: H can and stayed for 3 days. Yesterday, we were going out to lunch and he pulled his wedding ring from a drawer (it had been in there for 2 years) and put it on. I didn't notice until we were in the car and his finger started swealing up. He finally got it off and then put it back on. He wore it all day. sooooooo odd.
I think he senses that I am moving on. don't know.....took me for a loop
me:51 H: 48 No kids together M:14 years seperated:Ask him to GET OUT 3/21/11 Piecing 09/14
