Your post is beautiful. It is true love to give her that gift.
"Instead of looking at her actions in light of how they affect me I am looking at her in terms of how I can help her"
I have moments when I have similar feelings for my H. I mean looking at these WAS they look so possessed it is hard not to feel bad for them sometimes.
I think your new perspective will have a imperceptible yet enormous effect.
To say you will give W as much time as she needs is a true 180 for anyone and so unconditionally loving.
I wish I could say I will give H as much time as he needs right now I have till April.
Brklyn - I thought that your H threatened but did not file? What's the issue with April?
And I don't think I'm as strong as some of the people on this blog, particularly the ones where they have a S or D date impending. It's a lot easier for me to stay focused/hopeful because there is no issue like that in the works right now.
I wish you the best. Let's hope your H gets it together and sees what a great life he can have with you. Isn't it odd that at the moment a M can split up, it's also maybe the moment where it could take a turn to being better than ever because each has learned so much of importance?
