Too Little, Too late. 2

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Re: Too Little, Too late. 2 workinghardguy #2209811 01/02/12 06:24 PM
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OP purgatory Member P Joined: Dec 2011 Posts: 825 Virginia	GRRRRRR!!!! ok, got that out. My H is driving home today with the boys. They have a 13 hours drive, so I still have some time to mentally prepare myself. I was doing good so far, I was planning a special dinner and looking forward to hugging my boys again. Then.... H called to let me know they were on the road. He told me that he had sat with his dad and revised our Sep papers and wanted to go over them with me. [H has not discussed/mentioned Sep papers in 2 weeks, and our last discussion was only about doing a deployment agreement] So needless to say, I was a little confused and hurt. I expressed that I was confused because he had said I would get a copy of our most recent agreement so I could discuss things with my parents too.... he never sent that to me in the past 2 weeks. H got very defensive and stern voice: "I never said you couldn't talk to your dad. I never said I wasn't going to talk to mine, that was my plan and it didn't change. Not my fault if you feel like this." (I was proud of my 180 reaction): "I've told you how I feel. I don't want to discuss this with you while you are driving and I don't want S5 to hear anything. I appreciate the heads-up and I will get my thoughts together so we can discuss it when you get home." [inside I'm crying and screaming!!] I was surprised by how calm he instantly got: "if I upset you, that wasn't my intention. This whole process is frustrating for me- maybe that's why I sounded angry." (of course I wanted to say: 'well than don't do it! no one held a gun to your head and made you create separation papers!' So this was on of the things I predicted before my trip.... now I'm waiting for the other prediction to come true- that he will announce that he's moving out until he leaves in July. This one I will fight against- not for me but for the kids. Fact is, he will be gone for a year and miss daily hugs, kisses, bedtime, birthdays and holidays.... he owes it to my kids to be with them every moment he has available. I will not hesitate to tell him that he is being selfish if he moves out and that our kids' needs must come before his. I know that statement goes against DB, but it's for the benefit of the boys so I have no problem breaking a rule. Had to vent that out before it eats at me all day. Ok, now back to planning a special dinner for my boys (I could care less if H likes it, or even if he eats at all!!) M-31, H-31 T-9, M-7 S-6, s-20mth sep 8/1/11 ILYNILWY 11/29/11 Creating separation papers. Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12 H moves out 1.20.12

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Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	12/31/11 10:04 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	dbmod	12/31/11 10:35 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/02/12 03:12 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	BklynMom	01/02/12 03:59 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/02/12 04:17 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	BFloat	01/02/12 11:01 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	labug	01/02/12 02:07 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	labug	01/02/12 02:10 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	workinghardguy	01/02/12 02:25 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/02/12 06:24 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	sunshine76	01/02/12 07:31 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/04/12 03:57 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	workinghardguy	01/04/12 04:10 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	labug	01/04/12 04:11 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	BklynMom	01/04/12 04:47 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/04/12 05:31 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	sunshine76	01/04/12 07:12 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	BFloat	01/04/12 09:38 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/04/12 03:17 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/04/12 03:39 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	sunshine76	01/04/12 04:23 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	BklynMom	01/05/12 02:59 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	labug	01/05/12 03:53 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/05/12 04:07 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/06/12 03:28 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	BFloat	01/06/12 06:46 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	Oneeleven	01/06/12 01:33 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/06/12 06:17 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	nhmom	01/06/12 06:32 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	DestinyUnknown	01/06/12 08:33 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	Oneeleven	01/06/12 06:40 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/06/12 06:53 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	stillhopin	01/06/12 08:16 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/06/12 09:22 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	BklynMom	01/07/12 03:10 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	ces67	01/07/12 03:30 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	Nblost	01/07/12 03:37 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/07/12 02:59 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	ces67	01/07/12 03:50 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/07/12 04:27 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	adinva	01/07/12 05:31 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	kolja	01/07/12 05:33 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	Rick1963	01/07/12 07:16 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	ces67	01/07/12 09:32 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	BFloat	01/07/12 09:51 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	BklynMom	01/07/12 11:22 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/08/12 01:33 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	DestinyUnknown	01/08/12 02:31 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/08/12 04:08 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	DestinyUnknown	01/08/12 04:45 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	Hopeful321	01/08/12 06:27 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	ces67	01/08/12 07:55 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	BklynMom	01/09/12 03:40 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	BFloat	01/09/12 08:55 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/09/12 05:34 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/10/12 01:31 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	MrBond	01/10/12 02:21 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/10/12 02:33 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	ces67	01/10/12 02:53 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	nhmom	01/10/12 05:34 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	nhmom	01/10/12 09:14 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/11/12 03:50 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	ces67	01/11/12 04:09 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	2thepoint	01/11/12 04:10 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/11/12 04:19 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	PERSEVERANCE	01/11/12 09:30 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/11/12 05:40 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	JamesG	01/11/12 06:00 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	kolja	01/11/12 06:31 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/11/12 08:47 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	ces67	01/11/12 08:57 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	workinghardguy	01/11/12 09:02 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	DestinyUnknown	01/11/12 09:57 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	kolja	01/11/12 10:02 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	JamesG	01/11/12 10:17 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/12/12 02:12 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	BklynMom	01/12/12 02:30 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/12/12 04:29 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	BFloat	01/12/12 05:16 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/12/12 05:37 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	nhmom	01/12/12 06:26 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/13/12 05:16 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	kolja	01/13/12 05:56 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	ces67	01/13/12 12:02 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/13/12 10:57 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	ces67	01/14/12 12:28 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	BklynMom	01/14/12 02:44 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/15/12 05:39 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	labug	01/15/12 06:19 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	BFloat	01/15/12 10:15 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	25yearsmlc	01/16/12 02:14 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/16/12 02:38 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	nhmom	01/16/12 03:06 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	25yearsmlc	01/16/12 01:25 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	BklynMom	01/11/12 04:11 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/11/12 04:27 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	BFloat	01/11/12 07:50 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	stillhopin	01/09/12 08:55 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	kolja	01/08/12 12:43 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	25yearsmlc	01/16/12 01:13 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/16/12 01:31 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/02/12 04:14 AM

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