Accuray, I think your idea to leave it for MC is a good one. She may be nervous with the MC coming up. I would defer responding to her ultimatum and try to keep status quo for a while, maybe several appointments or several months, so MC can have a chance. It's huge that she's willing to go, and I think it's because this counselor seems to "get" her and is saying the right things to not scare her off. Try to be patient and absorb the feelings that the MC digs up, and let time do its work. It'll be hard. I was "thrown under the bus" too, and understood the need for it, so I was not defensive and I think this helped us make progress.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
