they seem to be making a distinction between 'different loves' in fact, they are expressing their confusion about what love really is.
Purgatory... thanks for posting that, it really spoke to me. During one of the major R talks that W and I had she revealed that she isn't even sure she knows what it means to love someone. And now I see her reading "Is It Love or Is It Addiction?" I can see that in her. Among the many pieces in play, this is one at least for my WAS. That she could be in love with me or anyone but wouldn't know it anyway. And this I attribute to the fact that she didn't see love or receive unconditional love in her youth. On the flipside I know that I grew up seeing love as a W (my mom) who stood by her H through hell and back. We later learned it was because of my dad's disease processes that he was the way he was, but at the time she simply dug in and held on. Hence that's what I see love to be... hanging on no matter how bad it gets.
Sorry... don't want to hijack the thread, but just thought the words were spot on and wanted to add my $0.02.
Married 6 together 8 Me:38 W:31 second marriage for both SS12, SD10, S6 Bomb: 9/8/11 (day before our 5 yr ann) W moved out: 2/18/12 D final: 11/12/12 Share S 50/50. Spend as much time as I can with SS & SD