Your post is beautiful. It is true love to give her that gift.
"Instead of looking at her actions in light of how they affect me I am looking at her in terms of how I can help her"
I have moments when I have similar feelings for my H. I mean looking at these WAS they look so possessed it is hard not to feel bad for them sometimes.
I think your new perspective will have a imperceptible yet enormous effect.
To say you will give W as much time as she needs is a true 180 for anyone and so unconditionally loving.
I wish I could say I will give H as much time as he needs right now I have till April.
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13