La Bug-Clouds in my Coffee

[sunshine76]

((( LB ))) I absolutely love your idea of singing I Will Survive!!!!

so you felt like dropping in
and just expect me to be free
now I'm saving all my loving
for someone who's loving me

If they don't want us well eff them. Maybe it's time to start saving all our loving

I am sorry you had such a rough day. I know what you mean about seeing all the happy couples walking around (some of them I just want to kick because they are so damn happy)

Hang in there, we are all going to get through this!!

[labug]

Thought I'd do a gratitude list for the first day of 2012.

Today I am grateful for:

-I'm alive and healthy
-My sons are alive and healthy and are fine young men
-I have a house and food.
-I won't need to move unless I want to because I have the means to pay for my house. (this was not sure right after BD)
-Got a 2nd job to position myself for a future change if I want it.
-My therapist
-Al Anon
-All of you here and those who have walked this path before and shared their stories
-Friends
-The Bomb Drop-yes, because had that not happened I don't think my growth would have happened at the rate it has.
-most of my problems are FWP, First World Problems.

[sunshine76]

Happy New Year LB! Here's to being grateful, personal growth and becoming truly happy...

[labug]

DB Friends, I have a question.

H and I started a discussion about financial stuff before Christmas, actually 12/12. I curtailed it with the statement, "I want to table this until after the first of the year."

As he is the classic non-confrontational guy (sigh) should I restart the conversation or wait and see what he does?

Thanks, all.

[labug]

addendum to above...12/12 is the last contact we've had and it was all financial.

[CO1978]

Do you want to have the conversation, or is it something he wants? If it is his conversation, I'd let him come to you, or at least wait a couple days to see if he will make first move.

[labug]

It involves him having to give me money. It's not crucial to my life, more about making things fair and fulfilling his responsibilities to me, his sons and the bank.

[BklynMom]

IMHO you are too cut off from your H and I think you need to test the waters a little so he can see your changes.

I think you should call him or email him, talk about the kids, your movie suggestion and mention you would love to finish the finance conversation you had last month when he was ready. Let him know that he can email you a time & date for the meeting.

Show him the new you, that you are forgiving but dont want to short change yourself.

[labug]

Thanks, B!

[WenikiTiki]

Hey LABUG!!!!!

Glad you liked my story about the President. I got to workout with him again today. He was already there when I got there, but spent about 40 minutes after I got there. I wasn't as close this time, the word got out and the gym was packed.

He does an intense free weight workout. Several of the SS guerds worked out with him. And I saw the special backpack that goes everywhere the President goes. That was cool. The whole entourage that goes along with him is impressive.

Anyway, hope all is well with you. Things are happening with my H. Time will tell if it is all good.

Keep up all your good work!

Wendy