You've been at this for a long time and have truly ridden the roller coaster. When I started following your sitch you were convinced that W would never have an affair, then you learned she did and went through all the emotions that so many of us have been through.
If you decide you're done, no one would blame you. I just hope you can look back at this experience and feel comfortable knowing that you gave it your best and did what you could to try to save the marriage. That's all your daughters or anyone else could expect of you.
If you are truly ready to be done, some options open up to you -- you can try the "Last Resort Technique", you can try an ultimatum. You can stop being accomodating and start setting boundaries. To some degree, being ready to walk is liberating.
Good luck to you.
Accuray
Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
