seeking, I hope you get some good sleep. Reading my old threads should certainly be boring enough to make you tired! If courage and strength = stubborn and grace and dignity = bullheaded then I can certainly agree.
H and I spent the last day of the old year working together around the place, and even ventured to town together to pick some things up. Spent the Eve of NYE riding horses, and then I konked out long before the ball dropped.
It's the type of day I truly enjoy, but what's missing is the physical contact between us. The light hand brush as we pass each other, the big hug for no reason. I've lost my confidence in that area, so there's my bridge to cross next.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
Call it DB, or call it getting smarter, or whatever! H and I were discussing something he did and our memories didn't match. I started saying "well no, remember this and this and this and that is how it was" but then I remembered the words rattling in my brain Do You Want To Be Right or Happy? and I ended that subject. (I already knew I was right.)
We rolled into the next topic of being invited to friends for dinner because they have out of town friends visiting. H had some other tentative plans, and I asked him what he would be doing so I could make my plans. He said that our friends invitation trumped his other plans and we would go to our friends. It feels good to hear H's brains returning.
H portrays the image of working hard on his finances to work on his debt. I get caught between believing him and helping him stay current while I then struggle to keep myself current. I am working on finding that middle so we both win.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
WCW, You are doing great! You will find that middle in time. Don't rush it...take things slowly. Yes, your h's brain is finally thawing out from the deep freeze.
Be sure to let him know that you appreciate his hard work...they do need that validation as they re-emerge from the Mother Ship.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I have a R question but un H related. I have a friend that we've done a lot of horse stuff together. This friend has another friend that does not do horse stuff. They spend a lot of time doing things and that's all cool. Now my friend is trying to plan things for all 3 of us to do together, taking trips etc. I don't want to do that kind of socializing with friends friend. I can get along with her, but I don't want to spend extended with her.
I don't want to just make up excuses, and I don't want to hurt anyones feelings. What is the right thing to do?
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
Thanks Kaffe, I've been doing that for day to day things, and passed up an all expense paid 5 day trip already saying that I couldn't get away because H was making plans for around the same time.
Now friend is asking about plans for another trip and wants to know when my calendar is open. I'm a pretty busy person but I don't know how to avoid this for the whole year.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
I think you need to do yourself and your friend a favor and be honest.
That will relieve you of the burden of trying to come up with an excuse each time and your friend of the burden of trying to plan around your schedule.
Me 54 DS19 and DS17 Married 06/1989 Divorced 01/2011
