DB'ing is sooooo hard (part 2)

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Rick - It is good to see your renewed focus and determination to helping your W work through her issues with unconditional love. The fact that you are willing to "give her all the time in the world" is truly commendable.

But, are you certain that your W is interested in you waiting? I mean, isn't she the one who wants out of the marriage? How do you know she is willing to put any effort into repairing the M? What signals are you getting to suggest that is the case?

And if she isn't interested in repairing the M or doesn't want you to wait, how will you deal with that realization?

I don't mean to be a downer here, but I could just as easily say the same thing about waiting as long as it takes for my W to heal and then work on the M. The problem is, she is the WAW and I don't see any signs at present to suggest she wants me to wait and work it out. It doesn't mean I'm not willing or won't wait. I will, but for how long? And, as you and I both know, events have a way of provoking reactions that then take us down unintended paths.

So, I guess my questions is, how are you going to manage through this?