Putting it back together, but SSM issues linger

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Thanks Labug,

I read the boundaries thread, I really don't think I have an issue there. W knows where my boundaries are and I'm very vocal about them.

I would like her to:

1). Address her depression and unhappiness issues

2). Find a way to enjoy having sex so she can be a partner and not someone who just gives.

3). Make some effort to try the things I enjoy so that we can enjoy them together, as I embrace the things she enjoys

Since she has told me she's not going to do any of those, she has set her own boundary.

If I set a boundary back, it becomes a game of chicken where the "loser" walks away resentful and the "winner" has a hollow victory with a begrudging partner.

That's the challenge with boundaries, you can get a boundary right back, then it becomes who is most willing to walk away? That person has more power and wins. That's the bottom line

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