I hope everyone had a pleasant New Year celebration. I had to work, and made plans with friends to just chill out and have some drinks and food. Called my W around 815pm to wish her and the family and our S a happy New Year but no answer so around 9pm just sent a text wishing the family and our S a happy new year. No response, but whatever.
As a recap, the D paperwork is still going back and forth and I've just been focusing on my rights as a father. In November, paperwork showed (finally!) an agreement to joint custody, and an arrangement with bi-weekly visitation and being able to have my S to my own but she retains the right to supervise. I've been debating on asking for unsupervised visitations, and I mean her choice to be there is optional but I wonder if she understands the true brevity of such a choice.
For example, Christmas Eve and Day fell on a weekend this year, so on the Eve I visited after work, ate dinner with her grandparents and our S and proceeded to gift giving. S was overjoyed at everything he got (thomas trains, clothes, DVDs, etc) and he had gotten me a cool blue zipper sweater (I love zipper sweaters and blue is my favorite color...guess W remembers some things lol) and he had gotten my W a lotion and spray set from Bath and Body works (I wonder how he knew :P)
On the day though, I had arranged for our S to spend time with my mother and my brother (more gifts to boot) and my W wanted to come along. I politely asked if I could have the day to just him and my family and she said she doesn't feel ready for that. I didn't argue and I just said, "Ok cool, its a family day then."
Outside of the joy my S had seeing my mother's christmas tree and opening gifts and playing with the new toys right away, my W retreated to a chair off to the side, occassionally was texting lord knows who and had the only look of depression and discomfort as my S was laughing it up and my family enjoying his presence. At one point I asked her if she needed anything to drink and her response was a cold, "I'm fine, focus on enjoying your son with your family." I stated I was and that I was just making sure she was comfortable. She reiterated her statement to which I responded, "I am focusing on him. So is my family. But you're sitting here with your face in your phone and looking all uncomfortable that maybe you should be enjoying the time with our son as well. We may be where we are in our lives but we're still family."
She just looked down and I left it at that. Since our son got quite the amount of gifts from my mother and brother I offered to take them back and I walked back with her and S to her parent's home to drop them off, said our goodnights and gave our son a hug and kiss and wished her and the family a Merry Christmas.
Anyways just wanted to start this up as my previous thread was getting huge. Hope everyone had a pleasant holiday, and may 2012 bring us good things!
