It's because you are doing AOS in the hopes of getting laid. It's a stealth contract and she sees right through it.
It's hard to show love when the other person does not.
How about respect, does she show you respect in day to day things? Does she respect your opinions, your profession, your hobbies? Does she admire you, or does she take you for granted?
Are your AOS the actions of a frustrated little boy looking for a lay, or are they the welcome advances of an admirable man who would make any woman swoon.
I'm going to be a little self centered for a moment here, and say that I'm quite a catch. Good looks, amazing job, good physique, and loving and caring.
I didn't have to just say it, but start believing it. To the point that every time W would not appreciate one of those qualities I had to set the record straight and remind her. Eventually her level of respect for me grew, along with reducing her taking me for granted.
As I felt respected by the woman I love, I began to feel more loving, and we have been building from there since. Slow but steady.
Start small, if work went well and you did well tell her. If she brushes it off emphasize to her how that makes you a top performer or whatever. Don't be afraid to sell yourself.
