you already KNOW this was pursuit and with what purpose?
What could HE have realistically said to this??
Originally Posted By: Hopeful321
Okay, I did send H a text after he left:
Me.: I have a question. are u afraid to be with me w/o our D?
H: No. don't know what u mean. I also don't know what you mean...unless it's that you fear he only wants you as a babysitter...
Me: I know u are confused about what u want but if u and I don't spend any us time together (w/o D) how will u know what u really want? Just asking.
H: Im not ready for that yet
Were you ever alone as a couple? as in BEFORE the child came along??
Me: okay. thats fine. I understand. Maybe 2012 will be better 4 us.
Okay, I know what everyone on here will say, it's pursuing. Hit me with the 2x4s.
I hope and pray that everyone has a Happy and Safe New Year.
there is NO YOU, or YOU TWO, without D....WHY PRETEND THERE IS?
he's a husband AND A FATHER but evidently he doesn't want that full time.
HE just wants a daddy fix, now and then....
and since most healthy normal woman want full time partners, he knows that's a deal breaker...
so he strings you along, has an affair but sees the D AND YOU of course b/c God help him if he has her on his own...way too much "work"...
and that's that. This is Not so confusing when you ONLY look at his ACTIONS...
sorry but that's how I see it
Detach and GAL as best you can and MAYBE you can turn this around.
But what you are doing is NOT working and it's prolonging your misery and confusing the heck out of you
and in the end I think you are hurting your cause...
you can do better and you surely deserve better. When you begin to actually believe that
it'll come.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
