Today's my wife's sister's wedding. At the same time she told me she didn't want to spend Christmas together, my wife told me not to go, because it would be "awkward" - it's disappointing since I would like to have been a part of it, but I don't harbor resentment or anger of it because given the situation her request makes a certain amount of sense.
I did send my wife a text message around 10:30 or 11 this morning wishing her well, telling her I knew how much time and effort she'd put into it and that her sister was lucky. I didn't hear back, but then I'm sure the maid of honor is pretty busy.
I sent my sister in law a text message congratulating her and wishing her well, telling her I was sorry I would miss it. She had a really nice reply, thanking me, saying she'd miss me, and expressing a wish that she could fix whatever it was that went wrong (suggesting my wife didn't tell her family WHY she wanted a divorce, and perhaps may not have even told them she was the one who wants it - which is of course between her and her family) because she loved having me as part of their family. I said I liked being part of the family too, and said hopefully things would turn around...
...and then left it at that to go about the rest of my day. Found a half marathon in April, the normal 12K back in my home town (which attracts like 50,000 people), and another half marathon in June. I penciled them in on the calendar (I don't plan things in ink anymore, thanks to the Navy...) and flowed out a training calendar with the help of a plan I found on line. Also got a bit done around the house and read some more of Divorce Rememdy. And of course, PLENTY of football!!
Me: 36 Her: 35 Together 7/09 Married 8/7/10 Separate rooms since at least April 11 "I've decided I want a divorce" 12/5/11 She moves out of state/files 2/7/12 Dissolution final 5/12
