I don't know what to say, but it sounds like damn if u do and damn if u don't.

I wish my H would some kind of effort in our marriage that you are trying to put in yours.

H: 49
W: 47
D: 6
M: 6 1/2 yrs
H: Bomb #1 6-2010
H: Bomb #2 7-2011
H: Separated: 7-11-11
Reconciling 2-2012
Separated: 1-31-15 (I asked him to move out)