You're not kidding. As I was reading the parts about 'more of the same' and what happens when you pursue I felt like I was reading an eyewitness account of the last 4-6 months! If only I knew in, say, early September what Ive learned in the last three weeks! But that's not a terribly productive line of thought so I don't indulge in it much.

My buddy's wife knows mine a little bit from when we were in the same squadron and after I told them the story of the last few weeks, she offered that she didn't think my wife REALLY wants a divorce. Intellectually I know there's not much basis to that statement (unless my friend's wife is clairvoyant or skilled in the Force or something) but its nice to hear. Sort of like taking an Advil doesn't actually fix an injury but can make your feel a little better for a while.

Me: 36
Her: 35
Together 7/09
Married 8/7/10
Separate rooms since at least April 11
"I've decided I want a divorce" 12/5/11
She moves out of state/files 2/7/12
Dissolution final 5/12