But it is what it is... Either I agree or she tells them herself, so really not many options.
This is how I see things, the spouse who wants to end the M should be the one to tell the kids. However, the LBS must be there with them so that they hear the truth. IOW, instead of your WAW saying that "Daddy and I want to....", she needs to say that "Mommy wants to......." Somehow, I kind of doubt you'd stop her from saying it like she wants it said, but at the least you should not have to show that it's what you want.....when it's not. This should be part of her facing the music, so to speak, for her decisions. But, that's just MHO.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
