Hey guys thank you all for your support and words of wisdom.
Well I fell off the DB wagon and have been in a funk lately.
I confronted my W about OW. She said that she went on 2 dates with this person while she was out of state visiting this person. She said nothing will ever come of it because neither one of them where willing to move to be with each other.
My W said that right now she is just not capable of having feelings for anyone. I asked her why she was dating if she wasn't capable of having feelings for anyone. She said she needed a friend and she like being fun and flirty. I said that dating implies an emotional and physical R so obviously you are capable of it.
She told me yet again that she just doesn't have 'those' feelings for me and she wasn't in a position to give me what I need right now. I think she is dealing with major depression, MLC and menopause.
She said that she is not sure that she is making the right decision about us, but she doesn't want to string me along because she may never be able to feel 'that way' about me again. She said she loves me and doesn't want to lose me as a friend.
I asked her if she wanted to take the dog hiking on this weekend. She said yes, but wants me to have no expectations and no strings attached. Ugh, I don't even feel like going after all of this.
I have no idea what I want or what to do at this point.
M:(f) 35 W: 45 3 dogs and 2 cats T: 9 years 9/30/11 I love you, but I'm not in love with you OW confirmed 12/23/11