Your wife said she is willing to work, that is a definite plus.
How much work, and in what way is still up in the air. Like you said dropping these types of articles on her lap might make her think you are trying to pressure her.
Now if you could find a Counselor that believed in this, then that'd probably work really well for you.
For me I found that as time progressed the advice from DB became less useful and the advice from SSM became more relevant.
Read bagheera's thread on that side of the forum it is really good.
For now I'll say that it is important to make sure she starts feeling loved. Take care of yourself and become a better husband. You're going to have to be patient about the sex part.
As for her chatting with other men online, it's like with OW she wants the attention.
How is your W's self esteem?
When you compliment her does she reject the nice words?
Sometimes in marriages a spouse suffering from poor self esteem may feel that their partner only compliments them because they have to since they can only have sex with them, or because they are looking to get laid.
They feel that if their partner was a total stranger they wouldn't be attracted. Thus they seek out the attention of strangers in an attempt to get an "honest" assessment. (let's be honest though the average guy looking for a quick lay is probably 1000 times more dishonest than someone who truly loves their partner).
As you know this can be dangerous since that validation can quickly become addictive. (that's why predators always swoop in on girls with low self esteem).
So it's a good thing she has vowed to stop. Just don't be surprised if she does it again, it can be addictive. The more she feels loved and validated by you the more likely she won't go back.
