i'm back. she didn't serve me but made it clear that she cannot and does not trust me. i have come to accept the writing on the wall at this point and, honestly, i cannot devote any more energy into doing what she asks of me. IF, as she suggests, everything i say is different from my actions (which doesn't seem to be the case for anyone else that knows me) then i'm pretty stuck.
i'm doing far better on a personal level though and i'm ready to get on with the rest of my life.