It's been 6 weeks since I posted anything...guess it's time for an update.
Today would have been our 10th anniversary. Paperwork has been filed, property agreement has been signed, W has returned her house keys and retrieved the rest of her belongings. All that remains is for the divorce decree to be signed and mailed.
We are done. It all seems like a strange memory now.
For the last few weeks I have been dating (kind of an awkward term to use when you're 56 years old...)a great woman who has been through the same crap most of us have been through. We have helped each other through the holidays, which were actually very good...my son was home from the Presidio in California, and he and my daughter spent Christmas Eve and Christmas morning with me. I've been out to dinner often, have been invited to several New Year's Eve parties and have generally been very busy. Life has turned around and is pretty good these days.
Some say, "Too soon...take it slow...you're both on the rebound...". Maybe so, and it may not work for everyone but it works for us so we politely thank our friends for their concern and assure them we're OK.
To everyone here, I sincerely wish for a happier New Year. Life does go on. 9 months ago I was sure I would never get past the pain and heartache of my W announcing her love for someone else, and it was sheer hell just to get through the days. I desperately tried to cling to our marriage despite her adamant resolution to end it. Today, I feel nothing for her. No love, no hate, no anger, no disappointment. I hope she finds whatever it is she is looking for.
As for me, I am ready to start a new year and a new life.
Peace.
H 56 W 48 D27,S21 SS25 SS22 Severely autistic M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs. "I've never loved you" 3/7/2011 Separated 8/7/2011 BITS
TM we were wondering how u were. Really happy for you. Hope you take all that you have learned about you and Make the greatest partner to that lady ever.
I am still working on my passive aggressive ways. Always a struggle. Will never forget the time u called me a petulant child. Thanks man I really mean that and don't forget us happy new year
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
I'm so glad to read that you are doing well! I think it's fantastic that you have found someone you enjoy spending time with. I agree...if it works for the two of you, just keep taking things day by day and enjoy! And might I add, this friend of yours is one very lucky lady.
I'm grateful you had a blessed Christmas, and I wish a happy, healthy and prosperous 2012 to you and yours.
Awesome to hear that you're doing so well, Telemark. It sounds like you're in a great place, not only in your love life but in the wake of things with your W. I really hope 2012 turns out to be a much better year for your than this last one. Cheers!
TM, thanks for posting. You've been missed, and strangely quiet, though I suspect there has been some lurking.
I am very glad you're are doing so well. I gives us hope for ourselves no matter how our individual sitches turn out.
Bye the bye the Travellers were a topic of discussion between my daughter and I a little while ago. I don't get east much, but someday my friend we'll get that beer.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
