It's been 6 weeks since I posted anything...guess it's time for an update.
Today would have been our 10th anniversary. Paperwork has been filed, property agreement has been signed, W has returned her house keys and retrieved the rest of her belongings. All that remains is for the divorce decree to be signed and mailed.
We are done. It all seems like a strange memory now.
For the last few weeks I have been dating (kind of an awkward term to use when you're 56 years old...)a great woman who has been through the same crap most of us have been through. We have helped each other through the holidays, which were actually very good...my son was home from the Presidio in California, and he and my daughter spent Christmas Eve and Christmas morning with me. I've been out to dinner often, have been invited to several New Year's Eve parties and have generally been very busy. Life has turned around and is pretty good these days.
Some say, "Too soon...take it slow...you're both on the rebound...". Maybe so, and it may not work for everyone but it works for us so we politely thank our friends for their concern and assure them we're OK.
To everyone here, I sincerely wish for a happier New Year. Life does go on. 9 months ago I was sure I would never get past the pain and heartache of my W announcing her love for someone else, and it was sheer hell just to get through the days. I desperately tried to cling to our marriage despite her adamant resolution to end it. Today, I feel nothing for her. No love, no hate, no anger, no disappointment. I hope she finds whatever it is she is looking for.
As for me, I am ready to start a new year and a new life.
Peace.
H 56 W 48 D27,S21 SS25 SS22 Severely autistic M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs. "I've never loved you" 3/7/2011 Separated 8/7/2011 BITS
